{"id":6382,"date":"2014-12-30T20:21:49","date_gmt":"2014-12-31T03:21:49","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.happyhomeschooling.com\/?p=6382"},"modified":"2015-07-08T16:43:53","modified_gmt":"2015-07-08T22:43:53","slug":"training-a-child","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/happyhomeschooling.com\/site\/training-a-child\/","title":{"rendered":"Training A Child in the Way He Should Go"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"abigail_blocks\"<\/a>I feel close to Hannah from the Bible. Hannah wanted a baby\u2014a feeling that I fully comprehend. I don’t understand, however, how Hannah was willing to give him up (back<\/em>) to the Lord when he was weaned. I can imagine that lengthy and emotional nursing relationship!<\/p>\n

Hannah did not just mother Samuel. She\u00a0trained him up in the way of the Lord. Young as he was, Samuel already \u201cknew better\u201d when Hannah delivered her son to the temple into Eli\u2019s care. He had been trained to honor the Lord.<\/p>\n

To train our children\u00a0in the way he should go\u00a0<\/strong>is a vitally important job!\u00a0\u00a0You only get one chance at it, and you can’t go back and re-do it.<\/strong> The future depends on parents to do their job well.\u00a0Here\u00a0are a few gems of wisdom, gleaned from other wise mothers, that I have depended\u00a0on in training my children.<\/p>\n

Start Early and Look to the Future<\/h4>\n

\"water-263054_1280\"<\/a>One evening my husband and I were eating in a restaurant when I observed the family at a table next to us. The mother and father were blessed with two darling little boys, probably one and three years old. Having raised boys, I looked at those sweet boys with tenderness. They were so precious, so teachable, so vulnerable. As they were waiting for their meal, the little ones began dabbling in their water glasses, dripping water down their sleeves and all over their clothes, place setting and chairs. I watched, appalled that the mother did or said nothing. Eventually she commented that they were getting all wet. How I yearned to tell that mother that neglect in training now at their young and teachable age would yield teenagers that had little self-control and scant respect for proper table manners to say nothing of authority, property, or law and order. It is so easy to teach a three year old how to act and so impossible to teach a thirteen year old.<\/strong> Start young when your gentle guidance is so effective.\u00a0Young ones are so eager to please you! Teach them how!<\/p>\n

Honor Daddy<\/h4>\n

\"baby-539970_1280\"<\/a>Studies show that children imagine God as they view their own father. God planned for daddies to lead\u00a0the family. Mom, you will do yourself a favor if you make sure that Daddy gets the biggest piece and constant gratitude for what he provides by working daily for the family\u2019s upkeep. Just as Heavenly Father grants us blessings, Daddy\u2019s diligence at work brings the needed material blessings. I have tried to make it\u00a0a habit to include gratitude for our Dad in our family prayers. I wasn’t surprised to hear my children begin to follow my\u00a0pattern, but I was surprised to hear them also to thank Heavenly Father for all their Mom does too!<\/em>\u00a0Nice payback! \u00a0If you are critical of your husband, the children will also criticize him, plus they will criticize you, too<\/em>. Appreciation creates respect.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"feet-266848_1280\"<\/a>Don\u2019t Train Your Children to Ignore You<\/h4>\n

\u201cWhat?! I don’t train them to ignore me!\u201d<\/em>\u00a0we may protest. But that is exactly what we parents tend to do. First, we ask our beloved child to get his pajamas on. Then we do nothing to make sure he obeys.<\/strong> Then, after awhile, we say it again<\/em>. Then we do nothing to make sure he obeys. After a third or fourth repeat of the command to put on pajamas, we feel angry and scolding and wonder why our child just won\u2019t obey us! But we have very effectively taught a memorable lesson which is, \u201cI only mean what I say 1\/3 or less of the time so chances are you don\u2019t have to obey me\u201d<\/strong>. In the end, our own inconsistency creates a parent-deaf child.<\/p>\n

\"haflinger-320030_1280\"<\/a>Don\u2019t Give Your Children a \u201cHard Mouth\u201d<\/h4>\n

A neighbor who works with horses taught me that you can ruin a horse with a heavy hand. If you consistently pull too hard on the reins, the horse\u2019s very sensitive mouth will eventually harden<\/strong> to protect itself. Then instead of an instant response to your slightest pressure, you will have to tug and yank at the horse to get it to follow your directions. Ah, and true with children!<\/em>\u00a0A three year old does not need a harsh scolding when he breaks a rule. He needs a gentle nudge<\/strong> in the right direction. If you are t<\/strong>oo heavy handed, just as with a horse, your child will become insensitive to your discipline.<\/p>\n

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Take No\u00a0Lip<\/h4>\n

It is not okay for a child to complain, pout, grumble, sulk, sass, badmouth or judge his parents when asked to do something. I used to think\u00a0if my\u00a0child obeyed my command, I had succeeded. I used to say such things as, \u201cYou don\u2019t have to like it, but you have to do it.\u201d I allowed complaining and back talk. Now I realize that the seeds of disrespect are sowed in negative words. Don\u2019t let them have a place to thrive!<\/strong> Thumper was right all along: \u201cIf you don\u2019t have something nice to say, don\u2019t say anything at all\u201d.<\/p>\n

One mother solved homeschool grumbling by setting a little cup for each child on the school room table. Every complaint by the children went uncorrected, but sure as shootin’, a\u00a0button clanged into their cup. At the end of school time, buttons had to be paid for by completing ten math problems. You can get creative here…washing 10 dishes…etc. \u00a0In our house, we’ve tried having teenagers pay for a sassy response with a $5 bill. It is amazing how quickly these little measures can teach us all to control our\u00a0tongues. Keep it playful, but don’t\u00a0allow your children to disrupt the family leadership with grumbling.<\/p>\n

I marvel that Hannah did so much to train her child in the few short years given her! To raise up a child to bring honor to the Lord\u2014I am certain there is no more noble and worthy work. \u00a0Sure makes home life a lot more enjoyable too!<\/strong><\/p>\n

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