{"id":6767,"date":"2014-12-02T22:44:34","date_gmt":"2014-12-03T05:44:34","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.happyhomeschooling.com\/?p=6767"},"modified":"2015-08-20T12:59:26","modified_gmt":"2015-08-20T18:59:26","slug":"all-my-kids-do-is-complain","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/happyhomeschooling.com\/site\/all-my-kids-do-is-complain\/","title":{"rendered":"All My Kids Do is Complain"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"DCP_5061\"Question:<\/h4>\n

All my kids do is complain, whine, and try to get out of school work. Any advice?<\/em><\/p>\n

Answer:<\/h4>\n

Your<\/em> job is to find the best resources and methods to teach the information in a fun and interesting way that captivates their interest. Are you doing your job?<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

Your children\u2019s job is to obey you, be grateful for your efforts,\u00a0have a good attitude\u00a0and do their work without whining. Are they doing their job?<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

If homeschool is dreary, or you are pre-occupied, doing other things, planning dental appointments, talking with neighbors,\u00a0and not focusing on being present and fun during homeschool time, then your kids might have a reason to complain. There are lots of resources to help you make school more fun and interesting. If you get involved, you will really enjoy being with them and learning together!<\/p>\n

If you are doing your part to make\u00a0homeschool fun and interesting, then the problem generally lies with the children. Have they been allowed to complain in general in life? Such as, “I don’t like this food, “You’re always late”, etc.<\/em>\u00a0That attitude can carry over into homeschooling time and make everyone miserable.<\/p>\n

We all struggle to teach our children to obey! It is one of those most difficult tasks of life\u2014\u201cThy will, not my will.\u201d Usually, disobedience is at the root of a bad attitude. I have discovered that my children yearn to be challenged and enjoy learning new things, even though they would lead me to believe that \u201cit\u2019s too hard.\u201d Complaining and noncompliant behavior must never pay off.<\/strong> I make sure that it is totally unproductive to whine and complain. \u201cI hate math, I don\u2019t want to do this!\u201d is met with an additional page of math facts to complete. It only takes a few extra assignments to convince a child that it isn\u2019t worth complaining. Doing dishes works well to stop complaining too.<\/p>\n

I make sure that my children know they can appeal to me, meaning that they can come to me privately and tell me how they honestly feel. If the math is too hard or boring, then I do all I can to remedy it. But generally, complaining and whining is just a protest that really means, \u201cI don\u2019t want to try. I just want to do what I want to do and I want it to be easy.\u201d<\/em> This \u201cmy will\u201d attitude only leads to trouble.<\/p>\n

Make it very worthwhile\u00a0not<\/em> to complain!<\/strong> Make sure no whining ever pays off or gets rewarded with attention (negative attention is still<\/em> attention). Gift\u00a0those who don’t whine with\u00a0some sought-after benefit\u00a0for holding their tongue.\u00a0They will learn. Be\u00a0persistent\u2014kids learn fast if mother sticks with it. School is going to get a lot better!\u00a0<\/em>
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