{"id":789,"date":"2014-12-29T23:14:47","date_gmt":"2014-12-30T06:14:47","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/happyhomeschooling.com\/?page_id=789"},"modified":"2015-07-08T16:45:06","modified_gmt":"2015-07-08T22:45:06","slug":"dont-un-train-your-kids","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/happyhomeschooling.com\/site\/dont-un-train-your-kids\/","title":{"rendered":"Don’t "Un-train" Your Kids!"},"content":{"rendered":"

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This past week, we visited Sea World in San Diego and enjoyed ourselves!\u00a0I couldn’t help noticing the children in the crowd\u2014and the training their parents were unknowingly giving them<\/strong>\u2014in contrast to the sea animals and the purposeful training they were carefully receiving.<\/p>\n

When the walrus even turned his head in the right direction, the trainer responded with a big handful of fish, stroking his skin, and praising him. It was obvious that if the trainer ignored good behavior, or approached wrong behavior with a slap or criticism, the walrus would quickly “un-train”. It took constant positive reinforcement<\/strong> to keep the animals willing to do the trainer’s bidding.<\/p>\n

\"walrus-74080_1280\"Children are not walruses, of course, but as I observed the crowd, I saw parents interacting with their children and it was very instructive. I saw children behaving wonderfully well, but they were given no positive reinforcement<\/strong> or attention at all. Misbehaving children were given plenty of negative attention, scolding and occasionally a spank. Some misbehaving kids were actually bought off with treats or souvenirs to shut them up and keep them happy. It is amazing with this kind of parenting that we don’t “un-train” our children and numb them from ever trying to please us, or respect any kind of authority!<\/p>\n

Soothing words, kind treatment, genuine quiet praise, focused attention, sincere appreciation for cooperative behavior, rewards skillfully given to those who are really trying to control themselves and behave\u2014this is what truly works in the long run.<\/p>\n

Both with walruses and kids!<\/em><\/strong>
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