{"id":791,"date":"2014-12-29T19:31:57","date_gmt":"2014-12-30T02:31:57","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/happyhomeschooling.com\/?page_id=791"},"modified":"2015-07-08T16:50:02","modified_gmt":"2015-07-08T22:50:02","slug":"dont-ask-twice","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/happyhomeschooling.com\/site\/dont-ask-twice\/","title":{"rendered":"Don’t Ask Twice"},"content":{"rendered":"

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\"balls-712026_1280\"When my kids were younger, going to the grocery store with them could be such a struggle! Each of them in turn was bedazzled by some treat or toy that they caught a glimpse of and the begging would begin: “Can we buy those cookies?” . . . “I want ice cream!” . . . “We don’t have any juice, Mom!” . . . “We need a big ball!”<\/em>.<\/p>\n

It is hard enough to grocery shop on a budget surrounded by convenience foods, heavy advertising, coupons and more, but add begging kids and it put me over the top! I found myself aggravated and just making a blanket “no” to any and every thing they asked! That’s when I decided to adopt a “don’t ask twice” policy.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I taught my children that they could ask me one time<\/em> for what they wanted<\/strong>, enabling them to express their desire or getting me to “look” at what they thought was so exciting. But not twice<\/em>!<\/strong><\/p>\n

Asking once is fine, but if they were to ask twice, the answer was an automatic “no”<\/strong>. No discussion, no questions answered, just an automatic “no”. This took a while to teach them. I had to remind them, “please don’t ask twice or I can’t say yes”<\/em>. I overheard the older ones tutoring the little ones: “Don’t ask twice or she’ll say no!”<\/p>\n

But then\u2014oh\u2014what peace we had! <\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

I was able to do my shopping and think clearly and make good decisions without being bombarded with pleading for this or that. I was able to reasonably consider and occasionally grant their desires. And it was extra fun<\/strong> to hear them squeal with delight when I steered my cart back to the aisle of their desire and asked them what color of a ball they’d like!<\/p>\n

Enjoy!
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  When my kids were younger, going to the grocery store with them could be such a struggle! Each of them in turn was bedazzled by some treat or toy that they caught a glimpse of and the begging would begin: “Can we buy those cookies?” . . . “I want ice cream!” . . 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